How to Be Supermom in a Healthy Way!
All the running around like a headless chicken, the baying children, the dog chewing the carpet, the cat clawing the sofas, the vacuuming, the laundry, the homework, the office work and so on, require nothing short of a supermom. Yet, speed has become your way of life, much like the 2003 movie Cheaper by the Dozen. You cannot even sleep, you do not eat enough food, you are so used to taking care of the needs of others you have simply forgotten yours … well, you are headed for a big breakdown, sooner than later.
But these things have to be done, one way or the other. So in this short article, we will explore a few ways in which you can be a supermom in a healthy way:
Do not feel guilty when you take a little you-time
Your children and your partner will take you on a long guilt trip on this one, but do not let them deter you from having some you-time. In fact, you should grab all the time that you can get with relish for believe it or not, that time does not come forth too often. It does not mean that you do not love your children, you do, a lot too. It just means that when you are relaxed and happy, you will love them in a much better way.
“Not feeling guilty” is easier said than done with all the societal norms that you have to break. You see, a mom is seen as a superbeing who should sacrifice herself for the sake of her children. But before you start feeling guilty for taking some time off motherhood, think … if you go down with depression, what will happen to your children then. Stay healthy, you are still a supermom.
You are number one – the most important asset
You are your biggest asset and you can only give that which you have first given yourself. If you do not love yourself enough, how are you going to be able to love your partner, your children and your friends? It will be a hard feat. Instead of giving your children a lot of “empty” time, give them lesser but high quality time. As soon as your children are old enough to do things for themselves, engage them.
They can organize their rooms, make their bed, feed themselves and do much more, but you have to engage them. That way, you will be left with some time on your hands as you will not be doing everything yourself. Child labor? Really? It is not. You are teaching them responsibility. Give them duties without feeling guilty. It makes them feel important, at least until they reach teenage.
Rally your family to your side
You sacrifice for them, so the one thing they should do is support you in your endeavors. Sit all of them down, and let them know that you need some time for yourself. Let your children understand why you have to delegate duties to them so that you can have some time for yourself. They may not get it the first time, but when you start not being there for them 100%, at least they will not be caught by surprise.
Regain your fervor for life
What is the one thing that you would indulge in and feel happy even when you were not paid for it? You need to rediscover your passion. This is something that is exclusive to you, something in which you can lose yourself all the time. When your children are all grown up and gone, all you will remain with is your passion. If you do not know what your passion is, find out and then start setting time aside for it every week.